September 20th, 2007 at 4:34 am edit
Grief, what is grief. not good grief….sorrow, anguish, heartache, pain, misery.
How can you have all those feelings at once.
The grief of seeing your loved one in a coffin
The grief of watching your loved one lose rational thought.
The grief of not being able to console your siblings, surviving parent, children, grandchildren.
Intellectually, you know it is a process. Does that lessen the pain? The grief? The ANGUISH? The sorrow? The misery? no
Time, time is the healer……That’s what they say.
I rage…I rage at simplistic euphemisms.
My brother,, yesterday we were listening to Supertramp (take the long way home) that was 13 years, that was yesterday when you passed with AIDS related complications.
My sister….my beautiful sister…yesterday, when cancer was eating away at you.
That was almost 10 years, that was yesterday.
My Dad, My Dad, My Dad. My Dad that was yesterday.
September 20, 2007 at 5:19 am |
Henri, what you have written is beautiful. I can feel your pain through your words. My heart aches for you, Vi and family.
Bill
September 20, 2007 at 2:01 pm |
Yes, it doesn’t go away, the grief. It changes maybe but it is present always, as close as yesterday.
September 21, 2007 at 11:45 am |
There’s are holes in my heart from the losses in my life.
I try to let the warmth of other’s fill some of the holes. It happens without me noticing, without my permission, without my efforts. I’m so grateful that I’m so loved by the amazing people in my life.
But when it’s still, when a memory presses into my soul-some unsolicited thought finds me…. the depth of those holes become revealed, once again.
Over and over again I’ll recognize the losses in my life.
Never forgotten…….. Forever loved.
*hugs and prayers for you, Henri*
Never forgotten, forever loved.
September 21, 2007 at 2:46 pm |
That was heart wrenchingly beautiful. Simplistic euphemisms or not, (I think not) you captured the emotions and took me there with you…
September 21, 2007 at 7:32 pm |
What you have written is so beautiful and so very very true. You have captured the way I feel about loved ones I have lost in my life now matter how much time passes it always feels like yesterday. 15 years ago my father, yesterday. 5 months ago my mother, yesterday. I speak to them daily and find my self asking what would they say when I have an important decision to make in my life. No matter how much time passes its still yesterday. Thank you for your beautiful writings thank you for putting how I feel into words. Please take comfort in knowing your loved ones are only a prayer away and held in your heart in your memories!
Hugs to you ( )
September 28, 2007 at 3:41 am |
My sister was killed at 19 in a car wreck and my broyher 7 years ago at 45. I feel so much anguish over their deaths. It was like losing a part of me. Sometimes life hurts so much it is hard to function. I go on because of my faith in God. He has always been with me. I could not live, breathe, exist without Him. I think most times I just exsist on a wing and a prayer. ~nita~
October 22, 2007 at 5:39 am |
This was such a powerful testimony on pain. My heart and soul go out to you. I am sorry. I will not say it gets easier. It becomes numbing after a while. But the sadness never parts, it becomes something else. My thoughts and prayers
October 18, 2008 at 11:36 pm |
Just wanted to share this poem here……
A PEOPLE PLACE
If this is not a place where tears are understood – Where do I go to cry?
If this is not a place where my spirit can take wing – Where do I go to fly?
If this is not a place where my questions can be asked – Where do I go to seek?
If this is not a place where feelings can be heard – Where do I go to speak?
If this is not a place where you’ll accept me as I am – Where can I go to be?
If this is not a place where I can learn and grow – Where can I just be me?
The poem is beautiful and I thank you for sharing it. I hope this is the place being looked for.